While there were other places one could pick up male sex workers in this period, Earls Court in Chelsea was one of the more well known, and it existed as such because the area also contained a number of bars (and other spaces) that at the time and since have been frequented by queer people looking to have a drink in a space where it is safe to be openly queer. Many young boys came to London in the 1960s and 1970s and struggled to make ends meet, turning as a result to sex work as a means to pay their bills. From its earliest usage, it was culturally tied to the West End in London, an area which includes Chelsea. It’s an old slang term, one that re-emerged in English popular culture in 1969 but was used colloquially before then. Put simply, a “rent boy” is a young male prostitute, generally of lower-class and not charging overmuch for his services. As with anything, intentions don’t matter if what your actions do is cause harm. This article, then, is my attempt to pay it forward: someone explained it to me, and I hope this can be a helpful gloss that can be used for anyone who maintains a willful ignorance so as to be able to keep singing the song whilst claiming they aren’t expressing homophobia while doing so. I’ll even admit that I sang the song up until perhaps 2012, when I was kindly informed of its meaning and stopped singing it. Rather than trying to convince anyone for whom that isn’t enough, though, this article is intended as a resource for anyone who has felt frustrated trying to explain the homophobia inherent the chant to someone who insists they “don’t mean anything by it.” For most, being told a homophobic song is alienating to queer supporters of any club, including fellow Liverpool supporters, would be enough to stop singing the song. It should be enough, and given those who did attempt to start the song on Saturday after being told of its homophobia by Kop Outs and Jürgen Klopp himself ahead of the match were, by most reports, quickly shut down, perhaps it even will be. I want to state this up front, because I wasn’t sure whether I should write it at all and by doing so risk giving those who continue to sing the chant more attention.īeing told that something is homophobic, that it’s hurtful to both many Chelsea fans as well as many within the Liverpool fanbase, should be enough to stop anyone singing it.
Trust me.This article is not intended to change anyone’s mind. I know it sounds cliché, and I know you are probably very turned on and curious about gay sex that you want to try it really soon, but waiting for the right person makes all the difference. And gay guys who take interest in you purely because you are a virgin will be a bit predatory. One night stands are purely sexual, yes, but if it's your first time you want to be able to take it easy (lol innuendo) and at your own pace. Don't do it! Worst way to get introduced to gay sex ever.
I'm looking for advice from other members as to how easy it is to have a one night stand with somebody who gos to these clubs? Are all guys in these places essentially looking for the same thing?Īny advice would be appreciated, I'm new to this and its pretty scary but also something I really want to do. I think the best way to do this would be to find a guy at a gay club. I've only been with girls before and its something I would like to try, although I don't particulary want a relationship I want to see what its like sexually.
Recently I've been having thoughts of being with another guy.